Why it hurts so much

 WHY DOES IT HURT SO MUCH

We love love. Yeah we do. Love sends us to joyous , lofty height that never want to come down from. And the love we feel for others it’s the same which can send us or make us find ourselves in more toxic relationships. Love is blinding , you might not release the toxicity in a relationship until too late and that might be when you have marks all over your body that’s when you might see something is missing for a while. 

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Its everyones dream to find love and a lover in the high institution of learnig, but unfortunately some falls into a relationships that shade of wrong from outset will trying to find that love in campus. For the love and a crush one might thing they have , but instead a gup in their lives since they lost their highschool lovers or they exes. ‘darling ypu look so pretty , you’re the image of my ex!’ they might go ahead and show you pictures of their exes in their phone galleries or even in their homes., which is never a good start of a relationship. This never goes well since they don’t love you for who you are but instead because you look exactly like someone who used to be in their line of love circle. Some of the campus students start their relationships with promises in order to win the other persons heart which along the way we aren’t able to fulfill them since from the start it was all a lie and instead we replace them with history and hurt.

Since many of young aldults rush into relationships with the phrase “oh ! my God we are sooo damn in love” without even taking any time to known each other or ‘learning’ the other person and along the way they realize things about their parteners and maybe one never expected such kind of behavior which instead of helping them to change of stop the strange behavior it turns to be violence , muder and sucides . 

Its time campus students needs to slow down and take a different way when it comes to love and relationships from the aspect of ‘I wanna be like friends, I have to enjoy campus life, love is scum so its today and tomorrow I will find a way out to another one’ because it hurts for one to play with your feelings and instead start being honest and true to themselves and stop making promises to attract the other person to them and they cant fulfill them. 

               SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

The relationship is borderline abusive

They always blaming other people for their problems

They don’t bring the best in you . They only see worse in what you do

You don’t feel like your self when you around them. They push you to behave in a way they like

You feel drained and helpless in the relationship

They want to control your life and it is always about them

You keep waiting and hoping for them to change

You feel insecure

Controlling and excessively jealous .There’Ssuspicion on and for everything you do

You don’t have the type of trust you should have

               SOLUTIONS

Always remember you are the prize and then act like one.

The higher the level of comfort in toxic relationship the lower the chances of leaving. So don’t be so comfortable in a toxic relationship you need to step out and move away since being comfortable in such relationship gives the other person or your abusive partner power on well-to-do.

If you realise your relationship is toxic just end it . Stop praying THAT IF IT ISNT Gods will, God should end it. youyr ability to make decision is a gift from God. So use it!

Dismiss toxic exes, unfollow them on their social media accounts , mute them and delete anything that might remind you about them or anything that might give you a reason to go back. Unlove them!

Always work hard to find yourself because its beautiful and empowering.

Take your time to deal with your trauma, pain, misgiving and the thought that life ends from what you went through because life start there and love is an amazing thing when you meet the right person , this will help you from jumping from a toxic relationship to the worst one.

Don’t be scared to start over , its better to start again than dying in a toxic relationship.